One of the things I like about adult board games is that they provide a semi-random and fun way to introduce new sex related topics or ideas. If you want to make your own sex game or spice up another board game that you enjoy playing, you’ll face the challenge of coming up with creative erotic activities to include in your game. A similar mechanism is useful in relationship games that involve intimate questions. You may be bursting with questions to ask a new or even long term partner but you don’t want to come across as an interrogator at an inquisition. An entire spectrum of intimate questions could be included in a board game format and revealed randomly in a fun way.

Many adult games use decks of cards with sexy questions, foreplay ideas, pleasuring activities or erotic challenges organized into categories or intensity levels. Cards provide enough space to include a reasonable amount of detailed text or graphics to describe an activity with appropriate flavour text as well. The content still needs to be succinctly written in just a few short sentences (unless you have really big cards). Unfortunately this requires leaving out a fair bit of background information that may be useful for some couples. This leads to the primary source of obtaining ideas for your game activities.

Many sex related ideas are best collected into a book format so they can be presented with sufficiently detailed background and contextual information. But the extra detail does introduce a different problem – individual ideas are not as convenient to access when you want them. I have a huge collection of relationship enhancement books. They all have at least a few unique and wonderful ideas that would be amazing to try out at different times. In fact, the more books you have the more difficult it becomes to find just the right activity to suit your mood. Also, once you’ve read a book, you may not necessarily remember the idea when the time comes to use it. All the detailed background information is still in your head mixed in with all the other stuff you think about. What you need is a mechanism to trigger your recall when you’re in a situation to actually use the idea. When you’re playing a foreplay game, it’s a perfect time to trigger that recall and get frisky.

Most couples have a collection of relationship enhancement or sex books or have at least come across articles about the subject in magazines or online. Although you may want to introduce new ideas in your game or help people learn more, you need to assume players have some level of background information already. The trick is to craft the idea in a way that most effectively ties in cues to related concepts that you expect people know. Your game provides a fun way to refresh their memory and create new memories as well.

As an adult board game designer, you’ll want to read as many books on the subject as possible while collecting key ideas as you go. Use a mind map or spreadsheet to record the essence of the idea. When you are designing your game, you can quickly scan the information and trigger your own recall. Without copying directly, you’ll be able to work the idea into your concept and more easily adapt the flavour text of the activity to your theme.

For a short cut, check out 500 Sex & Lovemaking Tips and 500 Intimate Questions for Couples for inspiration. Lots of ideas already condensed and organized for you.